If you've followed my blog for any amount of time, you've seen my many references to the efforts I make to maintain a consistent state of bliss and whimsy. There's just no better way to live, right? Of course not. We all share that opinion, I'm sure. But what do you do when times are just loaded down with chaos and unpleasantries? How long can you keep smiling past the stress that's invading your life? Can you keep your mind's attention off of the unwelcomed setbacks that are knocking at your door for a few more days, weeks, months, years?
I've asked myself that same question! That old saying, "When it rains, it pours" has proven to be one of the most accurate statements ever passed down from one generation to the next. I've experienced it myself and I've witnessed it happening to those around me. And it's during the torrential downpour that keeping a skip in your step usually results in slipping somewhere and busting your rump.
Natural instincts come alive inside us and we start running search queries in our brains for just some way to fix, end, or at least soften the blow that's aimed directly at our faces. But just as soon as we realize we can duck to miss this one, we get hit in the gut by some other problem. I don't care how sanguine a person is, after facing enough punches anyone will start feeling some kind of sting.
Now, I can tell you to do all the things you've already heard before and have more than likely already done:
1) Pray about it.
2) Realize God's in control.
3) Do what you can.
4) Leave the rest up to Him.
5) Move on.
I did want to throw in one scripture that's too awesome to be overlooked when talking about battles of the mind: 2 Corinthians 10:5- "We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive..."
When you've entrusted your life to Christ, you have the power to do what the aforementioned verse describes. The moment you recognize yourself entertaining negative outlooks or unsettling emotions- bind those things up and toss them overboard. Life will continually make waves for us, but you don't get very far on a silent and unmoving sea. Ride them out! Find a way to enjoy the journey. In the meantime, don't dare let any circumstance, any person, or any memory from the past pull you under by flooding your life with any feeling of defeat or discouragement. Ain't nobody got time for that!
I don't care a bit to admit that I'm probably the biggest nerd of all. It only seems necessary for me to physically do something weird to shake the unwanted leeches off of my oar. So, these are a few things I've done that help me get over things quickly. And, in all honesty, the end result is usually better than I expect. I find myself crying from extreme laughter, nodding at the realization that the good far outweighs the bad, and I get determined all over again to rise above the storms of life and make it count. So what's my recipe for success? Glad you asked...
I've found it best to talk things over with myself... out loud. Laugh. Go ahead. I'm sure I sound hilarious. Still, it's just a minor little thing that I can do that, for some odd reason, helps me view my circumstances a little more clearly. If I'm home alone, perfect. But, sometimes I have to get the keys and go for a drive. I used to get annoyed that I had to pause the conversation at red lights... I mean, I didn't want to look clinically insane. But, thanks to bluetooth, people are none the wiser. And I won't hold back this piece of amazing knowledge- I've actually held my phone up to my ear at times just so people would stop trying to figure me out. I get with it sometimes, and the stares were totally killing my vibe, so I had to find a way around that... I did. And, yes, I'm okay to share this embarrassing piece of myself... I think.
If you can't bring yourself to adore the idea of looking schizo at times, (or even if you grow to thoroughly enjoy it)- Get a notebook. And get one that just feels right. If you're a nerd, you'll understand what I mean. If you're not... welcome to the family. (You'll never be able to look at notebooks again without thinking of this.) Here are the beauties I adopted:
Introduce this special journal/diary/notebook to yourself by jotting down other times you felt as much unease. Then comment how you're feeling about those times at the present. You'll start to see just how small of an effect those "horrendous" setbacks had on the entirety of your life. Once you've scribbled down all the previous rendezvous with unwanted issues, go ahead and add the one you're currently battling. It's a little annoying when you think of all the frustrations you've had to deal with - but - it's just as comical when you realize how dramatic you were over something that literally turned out to mean nothing to you.
And now... for my favorite therapy Rx... watch Jimmy Fallon on YouTube. I mean... it's Jimmy Fallon! I cackle to the point of tears running down my face and my tummy getting tight and sore. It's an incredible way to cope. I beg of you... try this out. It really doesn't matter which segment you choose to watch, but "Wheel of Impressions," "Wheel of Musical Impressions," "Lip Sync Battles," and "Box of Lies" are my favorite... just to name a few.
And finally, after you've talked to yourself, written a book or two, and watched hours of 3 minute Fallon clips, end your session by reading a couple of inspiring quotes. I thought about sharing a few of my favorite here for you, but that's like me giving away my meds... and I think we know how people feel about that. But seriously, what inspires me may not effect you in the slightest. So, find your own inspiration... and go with it.
I look for some shape or form of it daily. This life is amazing and full of so much magnificence. The potential of what it could be is limitless. Reminding myself of this on a regular basis keeps me excited and filled with an undying zeal to make the most of every day. And I promise you- this stuff works. I started writing this post feeling blasé and a little isolated... but now... this nerdy gal is back to her happy-go-lucky self.
Not only is life amazing... You're amazing. Remember that.
And just because I'm feeling a little like living on the edge today- I'll share one of my meds...
"You are not just a drop in the ocean... You are the entire ocean in one drop."
Even in the disgusting, frustrating, sticky, and chaotic moments, you have so much to offer the world. Don't let circumstances make you blind to that. Embrace your nerdy, odd, and awkward self.
Somebody needs your smile.